I can’t say that everyone will definitely go through a divorce in their life, but a relationship breakdown is something inevitable for most people, and it is something you have to experience at some stage at your life for once.
I believe we all know how taxing and traumatic it is to go through a breakup that you don’t want. It is one of the hardest events to endure.
When a relationship ends, it could turn your world upside down and make you feel like you are not capable of doing any daily activities that you manage well anymore.
Also, most people who go through a breakup or divorce experience some degree of depression, and it is a natural thing people do when deal with the loss of a relationship, shared dreams and commitment.
Yes, it sucks, but keep in mind that you are not the only one going through this. Thousands of people are affected by family relationship issues and breakup every day. Some situations are unreasonable and nasty, while others could be simply heartbreaking and painful.
I never want this to happen to you, but I have some tips I personally experienced that could possibly help you handle your breakup/divorce better, and shorten the depression period.
1. Keep Your Cool and Look at the Relationship Like an Outsider
I know, I know it is already hard and painful enough to go through a single day without feeling depressed and heartbroken. However, I believe you are still able to think wisely and realize that the relationship was unhealthy, which is why it ends. You break up for a reason. Figure out the reasons and keep them in mind, or you can even write them down on a piece of paper and place it at the most obvious place you see every day.
Being aware of why your relationship ends, and he/she is not the right one for you.
Stay hopeful and believe that give it some time and you will be happier than ever before because you don’t need to deal with a toxic person anymore.
2. Cut All Contacts (if no child or property involved) and Start Meeting New People
Cutting off all contacts including social media updates and updates from friends, and avoid see anything that reminds you of your previous relationship for a period of 30 days, is a very effective way to start feeling better and move on eventually within a short period time. After applying this tactic for some time plus keeping your previous daily routine and spending more time socializing, you will surprisingly find out that you are actually doing not so bad.
It is a great way to get yourself out of the depression low period to keep yourself occupied with work and new people and not to think about the past.
You will move on before you realize it.
3. Hire a Family Lawyer When Situation Goes Nasty
When child or shared property involved in a divorce, it only gets tougher. In this case, tactic 2 is not a doable option. You should always stay strong, calm and reasonable. If you are dealing with an angry, unreasonable and rude spouse, and the divorce turns ugly between you two, consider hiring a family lawyer who you can seek advice from and protect your rights.
Having an attorney to neutralize proves to be very helpful when you and your spouse can’t agree on how things end regarding child or property.